The guy who JUST wanted to be friends...
Where to begin with this next Top Notch Gentleman? The EHarmony chats went really well, questions and answers were great. I knew in a matter of days that he worked for HVAC, had two children and loved drag races. All of which were perfectly fine with me.
He had told me that he was taking his two children to the Great Wolf Lodge, which I thought was fabulous and showed he was a good father and that he also made good money since, well have you looked at the prices of the Great Wolf Lodge?? That Sunday I had invited him out to an Irish Pub where me and some girlfriends were going to see a cover band and have some drinks. At first he said yes and then cancelled a few minutes later, which I TOTALLY understood since he had just spent 2 days at the Las Vegas strip for kids!
We made plans for the next week and decided to get sushi. We were meeting at a place that I had never been to before but according to him it was a great spot. I knew the location and saw him when I pulled in. He definitely was attractive and even better looking than his profile pictures so an A+ on that one. The sushi place was supposedly at this mall so we walk inside and joke about where the location was since he couldn't remember exactly which end it was at. I made a joke about "what if it was no longer there" and as we walk around the corner sure enough the restaurant had been shut down! Fabulous! We laughed about it and of course it was pretty funny for a first date. As we decide to try another sushi joint (my favorite one that I knew was still standing) he asks if I wouldn't mind driving since he had just realized that his tabs were expired, since he normally drives his work van he didn't realize until just then.
I of course said that was fine and we headed 15 minutes further away to my favorite spot. As we started to eat his phone rang and I told him it was ok to answer it, so he did. After about 10 minutes of a work phone call we were back to the ever so wonderful first date topic starters. The convesation was ok, nothing spectacular but as always being myself I try to look on the upside of things (especially when it comes to making excuses for men, you know with the daddy issues and all). We were soon done with our very delicious meal that he was afterward ranting and raving about which made me give my inner self a big pat on the back. He invited me out for drinks which I thought was unexpected but I gladly accepted since I thought things definitely could have been going worse. Since we were in my car I had to take him back to his car (which he wanted to drop off at his apartment first then have me take him to the bar) all of which at the time I was TOTALLY fine with... people do that all the time right?!
We get to the bar and he buys us both a drink (and yes he did pay for dinner so that was a plus). We played a round of pool, went outside for a smoke, played some more pool, had another drink, laughed and talked things seemed pretty relaxed and fun with him. I thought this was going well, which apparently at the time he did too since he invited me up to his apartment when I drove him home (I know GASP right) you're thinking "you don't know this guy" "this is the first time you've met him" "he could be crazy..." Ya well I had a lot of faith in good ol eharmony at that moment so I decided to say yes... Nothing happened, we watched a movie, he walked me to my car and that was that! Over all it was a pretty good first date.
The next couple of days went by and I didn't really hear from him. I decided to text and thank him again for the date and ask if he'd want to get together again soon. He said yes and we decided to do a night in. Since I was at the time living with my brother I decided to take the things I needed to make dinner and I would make him a home cooked meal. I bought some Johnnie Walker and the movie "Date Night" and was pretty confident that things would be progressing to a happier place that night.
I had talked to him about an hour before our date and he had offered to get some stuff at the store if I needed anything for dinner, I thought that was sweet but I had already gotten everything and was heading over there after work.
I got to his place (which let me just say was not in the nicest of neighborhoods) and started prepping right away. Dinner turned out better than I expected and after one drink each we decided to watch the movie.
I was kinda nervous and had already seen the movie before so I was a little distracted and drank some more! At this point things were getting a little hazy and we were cuddling on the couch, eventually he told me to kiss him (which totally ruined my childhood knight in shining armor chivalorous man who would ask a woman if it was ok if he kissed her) but what the heck I had some liquid courage so I did it. He complimented me on my make out technique, which I have to thank my wonderfull teenage years for. And we drank some more, well more really he just kept going back to the freezer and being that it was Johnnie that I had brought over I couldn't let him drink all of it, so I joined him.
At this point it was probably around 1am and I was getting pretty tired and although I didn't live too far away I knew I was too drunk to drive. So I can't really remember if he offered for me to stay or if I asked but either way I ended up spending the night. We were making out in his bed (which by the way his comforter was a fancy shower curtain and it took my drunk self quite a long time to finally figure out why there were perfectly stitched holes in his blanket) I was a lady and didnt make any reference to it though. Things started to get heated and he asked me to sleep with him (hey where was that gentleman earlier when all I wanted was a romantic kiss!?) I told him no, YAY go me I told a guy no to something that typically would make me feel somewhat better about myself and more appreciated. He was seemingly ok with that and we both fell asleep.
In the morning I was blissfully unaware that I was never going to see him again. I thought things had been great and I was happy to see him off to work in the morning with a kiss...
Days go by and I don't hear from him. A week. A week and a half. Finally I asked my friend if she would simply call his number and see if he answers and not say a WORD. So she does and it rings but he doesn't answer (which mean his phone wasn't turned off otherwise it would have gone straight to voicemail). Sad. I was upset because honestly I had cooked an awesome meal, spent the night at a mans house, and let him drink almost all of my wonderful Johnnie. Yet I wasn't even politely told "hey that was fun but I am not interested" No I just got ignored.
Well a few more days go by and I get a random phone call from him... Turns out my friend that I had asked to call him that night had text him not remembering the phone number and wanted to know who she had called. When he told her who she was she decided to step in and stick up for me as friends should do. Only in this case it made me look like a hopeless teenager who was sliting her wrists because the jock didn't like the nerdy girl... This conversation had to be one of the most embarassing ones of my life. He was using a tone that only people use when trying to coax a person from a 10 story building to not jump. I wanted to scream. Asking me if I was alright, telling me I am an awesome girl but he just wasn't interested in me like that. And then asking more and more if I was alright! I just wanted to yell "YEAH! I am fine, I just wasted time and energy on someone who just wanted to get laid and got turned down but ya... I am SO fine." Unfortunately I had left my just recently purchased movie and the rest of my bottle of alcohol over there. SO I had to make plans to go and pick those things up.... IT was beyond Awkward. I of course decided to look as hot as possible and when I went to the door he invited me in but I didn't go further than the entry way. He told me he really was sorry and that he thought I was really cool and wanted to be friends... HA. I told him he really didn't need to apologize, he didn't owe me anything we didn't know eachother and things were fun so no worries. He insisted that we remain friends and wanted to make plans for later for me to come over and hang out since we lived pretty close.
I left feeling a little bit relieved and did hope that I could be that friend that he eventually fell for (I know I am pathetic!) Well... I never heard from him again, So hats off to that guy, He got a great meal, some free alcohol, a great make out session and all under the comforts of his own home!
He had told me that he was taking his two children to the Great Wolf Lodge, which I thought was fabulous and showed he was a good father and that he also made good money since, well have you looked at the prices of the Great Wolf Lodge?? That Sunday I had invited him out to an Irish Pub where me and some girlfriends were going to see a cover band and have some drinks. At first he said yes and then cancelled a few minutes later, which I TOTALLY understood since he had just spent 2 days at the Las Vegas strip for kids!
We made plans for the next week and decided to get sushi. We were meeting at a place that I had never been to before but according to him it was a great spot. I knew the location and saw him when I pulled in. He definitely was attractive and even better looking than his profile pictures so an A+ on that one. The sushi place was supposedly at this mall so we walk inside and joke about where the location was since he couldn't remember exactly which end it was at. I made a joke about "what if it was no longer there" and as we walk around the corner sure enough the restaurant had been shut down! Fabulous! We laughed about it and of course it was pretty funny for a first date. As we decide to try another sushi joint (my favorite one that I knew was still standing) he asks if I wouldn't mind driving since he had just realized that his tabs were expired, since he normally drives his work van he didn't realize until just then.
I of course said that was fine and we headed 15 minutes further away to my favorite spot. As we started to eat his phone rang and I told him it was ok to answer it, so he did. After about 10 minutes of a work phone call we were back to the ever so wonderful first date topic starters. The convesation was ok, nothing spectacular but as always being myself I try to look on the upside of things (especially when it comes to making excuses for men, you know with the daddy issues and all). We were soon done with our very delicious meal that he was afterward ranting and raving about which made me give my inner self a big pat on the back. He invited me out for drinks which I thought was unexpected but I gladly accepted since I thought things definitely could have been going worse. Since we were in my car I had to take him back to his car (which he wanted to drop off at his apartment first then have me take him to the bar) all of which at the time I was TOTALLY fine with... people do that all the time right?!
We get to the bar and he buys us both a drink (and yes he did pay for dinner so that was a plus). We played a round of pool, went outside for a smoke, played some more pool, had another drink, laughed and talked things seemed pretty relaxed and fun with him. I thought this was going well, which apparently at the time he did too since he invited me up to his apartment when I drove him home (I know GASP right) you're thinking "you don't know this guy" "this is the first time you've met him" "he could be crazy..." Ya well I had a lot of faith in good ol eharmony at that moment so I decided to say yes... Nothing happened, we watched a movie, he walked me to my car and that was that! Over all it was a pretty good first date.
The next couple of days went by and I didn't really hear from him. I decided to text and thank him again for the date and ask if he'd want to get together again soon. He said yes and we decided to do a night in. Since I was at the time living with my brother I decided to take the things I needed to make dinner and I would make him a home cooked meal. I bought some Johnnie Walker and the movie "Date Night" and was pretty confident that things would be progressing to a happier place that night.
I had talked to him about an hour before our date and he had offered to get some stuff at the store if I needed anything for dinner, I thought that was sweet but I had already gotten everything and was heading over there after work.
I got to his place (which let me just say was not in the nicest of neighborhoods) and started prepping right away. Dinner turned out better than I expected and after one drink each we decided to watch the movie.
I was kinda nervous and had already seen the movie before so I was a little distracted and drank some more! At this point things were getting a little hazy and we were cuddling on the couch, eventually he told me to kiss him (which totally ruined my childhood knight in shining armor chivalorous man who would ask a woman if it was ok if he kissed her) but what the heck I had some liquid courage so I did it. He complimented me on my make out technique, which I have to thank my wonderfull teenage years for. And we drank some more, well more really he just kept going back to the freezer and being that it was Johnnie that I had brought over I couldn't let him drink all of it, so I joined him.
At this point it was probably around 1am and I was getting pretty tired and although I didn't live too far away I knew I was too drunk to drive. So I can't really remember if he offered for me to stay or if I asked but either way I ended up spending the night. We were making out in his bed (which by the way his comforter was a fancy shower curtain and it took my drunk self quite a long time to finally figure out why there were perfectly stitched holes in his blanket) I was a lady and didnt make any reference to it though. Things started to get heated and he asked me to sleep with him (hey where was that gentleman earlier when all I wanted was a romantic kiss!?) I told him no, YAY go me I told a guy no to something that typically would make me feel somewhat better about myself and more appreciated. He was seemingly ok with that and we both fell asleep.
In the morning I was blissfully unaware that I was never going to see him again. I thought things had been great and I was happy to see him off to work in the morning with a kiss...
Days go by and I don't hear from him. A week. A week and a half. Finally I asked my friend if she would simply call his number and see if he answers and not say a WORD. So she does and it rings but he doesn't answer (which mean his phone wasn't turned off otherwise it would have gone straight to voicemail). Sad. I was upset because honestly I had cooked an awesome meal, spent the night at a mans house, and let him drink almost all of my wonderful Johnnie. Yet I wasn't even politely told "hey that was fun but I am not interested" No I just got ignored.
Well a few more days go by and I get a random phone call from him... Turns out my friend that I had asked to call him that night had text him not remembering the phone number and wanted to know who she had called. When he told her who she was she decided to step in and stick up for me as friends should do. Only in this case it made me look like a hopeless teenager who was sliting her wrists because the jock didn't like the nerdy girl... This conversation had to be one of the most embarassing ones of my life. He was using a tone that only people use when trying to coax a person from a 10 story building to not jump. I wanted to scream. Asking me if I was alright, telling me I am an awesome girl but he just wasn't interested in me like that. And then asking more and more if I was alright! I just wanted to yell "YEAH! I am fine, I just wasted time and energy on someone who just wanted to get laid and got turned down but ya... I am SO fine." Unfortunately I had left my just recently purchased movie and the rest of my bottle of alcohol over there. SO I had to make plans to go and pick those things up.... IT was beyond Awkward. I of course decided to look as hot as possible and when I went to the door he invited me in but I didn't go further than the entry way. He told me he really was sorry and that he thought I was really cool and wanted to be friends... HA. I told him he really didn't need to apologize, he didn't owe me anything we didn't know eachother and things were fun so no worries. He insisted that we remain friends and wanted to make plans for later for me to come over and hang out since we lived pretty close.
I left feeling a little bit relieved and did hope that I could be that friend that he eventually fell for (I know I am pathetic!) Well... I never heard from him again, So hats off to that guy, He got a great meal, some free alcohol, a great make out session and all under the comforts of his own home!
