Online Dating Tried to Kill Me

Unemployed Drive in Movie Guy....

#1 Rule of ALL dating... Don't pretend to be something your not just to get a date

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             In June 2010 I decided to sign up for Eharmony and hopefully find the man of my dreams. I figured that since people were paying to meet people and be matched up with them then they obviously are looking for a serious relationship and possibly want the same things in life that I do.
            Let me just tell you starting on an online dating site can be very frustrating and time consuming! With Eharmony you first have to answer ALL of these questions and when you've finally finished creating a profile you decide how many months you want to be subscribed to this thing... all the while never actually seeing the people your matched up, they don't show you the pictures till you pay!
          So here I am ready to spend $75 on a dating site that I have no clue if it will work or what these guys look like. I pull out my handy dandy debit card and sign my life away. When that has processed I look at my whole wapping 7 matches... Let's just say one included a paraplegic, not to say he doesn't deserve love but that was kind of a big shock for one of my first matches. After realizing that I was only going to get 7 matches a day I just figured I would wait a couple days and check them all at once (this is how Eharmony get's you to subscribe for longer, by only matching you up with 7 people a day). 
          
                             His Stats:                           My Stats:                             
 Height - 5'9''  (according to his profile)                    Height - 5'4'' (I was taller than him 2in boots on)
Weight - 140lbs                                                                  Weight - more than 140lbs :)
Hotness scale - 4 (just being honest)                         Hotness scale - 9 (compared to his hotness)



                     A month goes by and I had sent questions back and forth to a couple of guys but no REAL communication. I decide I am being too picky at who I talk to and chose to talk to this guy who only had one picture where it was cropped in on his face and he was wearing a beany. I figured I would give it a shot he had a pretty good profile. So we ended up talking and exchanging numbers. I told him I was a sports fan... Which I do like sports but only to play really, I actually hate watching sports games especially on the T.V.
So we start talking on the phone during a Sounders game (which normally I would just wait to hear from my mom and see who won).  While watching the game via telephone we decided to place a bet on who would win, the person who lost the bet had to drive out to the other persons town (since we were about 2 hours away) and go on a date... Somehow I won and he had to drive out to see me.
           He came out the very next day and we decided to go see Grown Ups at the local drive-in. Of course movies at the drive-in don't start till dark and being that it was summer we had a few hours to kill since he got here at 6:00pm. We decided to go to a park and sit and talk. He told me all about his unemployment and how he only works part time, oh and the big wapping secret of him having a 7yr old. Which to me was fine, he knew I had a toddler.

#2 rule of dating... Don't hide your children, some people don't want more kids or have certain feelings towards their significant other having children.

         No I didn't mind that he had a son, I minded the story that went along with why he doesn't see his son. He told me that his ex had made up all sorts of lies to his son and that when they were at court getting the parenting plan into play his son told the judge that his grandma, this guys mom, had touched his private parts and that he didn't want to be around her...
Whether that be the truth or something his mom fed him because she didn't want him seeing his son didn't matter to me... I was on a date with a man who's mother had been accused of sexually abusing her own grandson, I have a son, I want a relationship with my future husbands mother. See my problem?
        We drove to the drive-in, and here comes the awkward part. No one talks before going on a date who is paying because its just plain AWKWARD. Now adays it is socially acceptable for the woman to pay, it is also acceptable for each party to pay for themselves. I was prepared to pay for myself but just held conversation with him until we got up to the window. I didn't reach for my purse just sat tight to see what he did, he paid but it seemed uncomfortable for him. I don't know if that was a bitch move for me to do especially since he had just told me he was on unemployment and paying child support but it shows what kinda man your going to be with if they make  you pay for the first date!
         I ended up having to pay for my own food, which was ABSOLUTELY disgusting, Do not I repeat Do not every buy food at a drive-in so disgusting and overpriced! After a very long couple of hours of disgussing our lives the movie finally started. So if you haven't seen the movie Grown ups... don't. Too many comedians in one movie and although there were some funny parts I think it was a little much. My date didn't think the same thing. Here's the downfall of a drive-in, your stuck in the car with the person so if they laugh you hear it and only it. He laughed the WHOLE time, I mean literally the whole time. Ya the movie was comical and I am definitely one who loves a good laugh and I do find the simplest things in life and in a movie funny, but he literally did not stop laughing. Needless to say I wasn't planning on seeing him again. He drove me back home and I gave him a hug goodbye.
       Here's where I was the bitch. I didn't call or text him to let him know I wasn't interested. I kind of just forgot about it until a week or so later when I read a text saying "So I am kinda slow but I am guessing your not my type." I apologized and made up a lie about dating someone else! I felt bad and apparently I reaped what I sewed because the next few dates were pretty horendous!



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